The bridezilla is an unusual – though not rare – creature that emerges from the body of a previously sane woman in the lead up to her wedding. A bridezilla can be identified by their loud screeches, demands for attention, utter lack of understanding for any kind of human error and the mild sense of panic that hovers around them day and night. No one is immune from becoming a bridezilla, as even the most calm and rational women experience an onset of the problem when it comes to planning their own ceremony.

Avoiding becoming a bridezilla is, for most women, extremely important while organizing their wedding. There is a small group of women who positively relish the role of the bridezilla, who see the opportunity to focus attention on themselves and thrive on the tension. These women, however, are completely unfathomable to most, hence the decision by most brides-to-be to try and remain as far from the curse of the bridezilla as possible.

The trick to avoiding this dreaded condition is simple: perspective. In the months running up to your wedding, it may feel to you like this is the most important event in the history of civilization and every tiny mistake or hiccup is guaranteed to ruin your entire day and – really? You may as well not bother getting married at all.

If you feel an attack of this hysteria, take a deep breath and step back from the situation. Almost any mistake that occurs has a solution, but you’re definitely not going to find it if you’re panicking and shrieking. Step back, look at the entire event from a different perspective, and try to keep a lid on that inner monster. With any luck, you’ll manage it, and your entire big day can be memorable for its beauty and grace – not for the bride crying hysterically before the ceremony because one of the bridesmaid bouquets hasn’t been delivered.