Easing Relative Interference During Wedding Planning

It is a sad truth that relatives can make planning a wedding extremely uncomfortable. A bride to be can all too often find herself caught between a rock and a hard place, suffering from an eternal case of trying to please too many people and actually pleasing no one. With weddings, relatives of both bride and groom step into the light just to make life that little bit more difficult – the end results can be a betrothed couple so distressed and fraught with tension, the wedding day seems more like something to dread than savor.

Yet while there is truth in the aforementioned scenario, it doesn’t have to be the way. Many betrothed couples find the stress of planning a wedding almost unbearable even without relatives trying to interfere, and the end result is a poorer day for everyone.

The problems that relatives create can be endless. It can be from the Great Aunt you barely remember who insists on a tradition you don’t like just because it’s been in the family for generations, or the Uncle of the groom who doesn’t want to be seated next to his ex wife. It’s a difficult conundrum to play, and weddings are naturally fraught with emotion, all of which can escalate on the day without careful planning.

For it is careful planning that is the only thing that can save a couple on the run up to their wedding. Quite simply, remember that this is your day. It’s your one shot, hopefully the only wedding day you’ll ever have, and if your mother doesn’t like the choice of flowers then that is predominantly her problem. Make decisions quickly and firmly, and when they are made, stick to them.

It sounds simple, when of course it isn’t. Many brides decide to be forthright and stick to their guns, only to then find themselves the subject of what is essentially emotional blackmail from relatives and friends alike. In these cases, quite understandably, they crumble and start giving in to demands. Unfortunately, there is no sure fire method of ensuring you are not one of these brides. Just try and keep your head up, plough through and remember that even if some people have a problem with the order of the ceremony or indeed the flowers, in most cases when the day arrives and their demands have not been met, they’ll let it go. Then everyone can enjoy the day, and the preparation need not be a terrifying thing.